Society just loves to rip on Millennials for not having our shit together. After all, we’re just a bunch of financially-irresponsible-avocado-toast-eating-cry-babies, right? Wrong. We’re not worse than the generations before us; we’re just different. We’re a generation of side-hustlers and forward-thinkers; creators and conscious-consumers. We’re doing better in our own way and I think it’s about damn time we give ourselves more credit.
The quarter-life crisis is the new mid-life crisis it seems. If I had a dollar for every conversation I’ve had with someone on this topic, I would probably be able to pay off my crippling student loans.
Recently, I sat down with one of my best friends who hit the nail on the head with this whole millennial-life crisis conundrum. We’ve had countless conversations with our peers who are struggling with what they want to do vs. what they “should” be doing (i.e. having a solid career, owning a house and having kids by the age of 25) and we came to the conclusion that it’s not worth stressing over.
Her words were the most comforting perspective I’ve heard thus far — “I’m not worried about it and don’t believe in the whole quarter-life crisis thing. I know it’s going to get better because my life is in my hands. I may not be in university or with a regular career…but at least I know I’m being true to myself.” In that moment I wanted to hug her and cry, and I should have.
Way too often I find myself comparing myself to others and their success, especially with everyone’s highlight reel being accessible 24/7 through Facebook and Instagram. But this conversation forced me to take a good, hard look at myself. And honestly, I don’t think I’m doing a bad job at life even though I feel like I am most days.
I’m not here to tell you how to live your life. I’m just another twenty-something trying to navigate through her own and find solace through matcha lattes, impromptu weekend getaways, and the occasional social media rant.
I’m certainly not saying everyone needs to quit their job and pull an Eat Pray Love, but if you feel like you aren’t living a life that isn’t truly yours, what can you do to make it feel more true to you?